‘She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman’ is a book by Ian Kerner that offers a thorough, detailed guide to the female anatomy, and provides strategies for sexual satisfaction. Kerner emphasizes the importance of foreplay and cunnilingus, advocating that ‘She Comes First’ during sexual encounters.
The Importance of Foreplay
Foreplay is not just a prelude to intercourse, but a crucial part of sexual satisfaction.
It creates a level of intimacy and helps in building the sexual tension necessary for a fulfilling sexual experience.
The ‘5 Stages’ of Arousal
Understanding the five stages of arousal (Desire, Excitement, Plateau, Orgasm, Resolution) can help in navigating the sexual experience and ensuring maximum pleasure for your partner.
The ‘4 S’s’ of Touch
The 4 S’s (Soft, Slow, Steady, Sensuous) of touch emphasize the importance of a gentle, unhurried, consistent, and sensuous touch during foreplay and intercourse.
The ‘POET’ Principle
The POET (Patience, Observation, Evaluation, Testing) principle is a guide to understanding and responding to your partner’s sexual responses and preferences.
